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8 Things You Should Never Say To Your Partner

8 Things You Should Never Say To Your Partner

Lifestyle Relationship
By Allison Kong on 12 Jan 2024

Ah, love, the glue that holds relationships together. But let’s face it, none of us are perfect when it comes to communicating with our significant others. We've all made mistakes, right? There are certain phrases, though, that can trigger a reaction. So, let’s navigate this emotional journey together and check out these 8 things you should never, ever say to your partner.

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#1 You are overreacting

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Dismissive statements like this can invalidate your partner's feelings and make them feel unheard. It's essential to acknowledge and respect their emotions, even if you may not fully understand or agree with them. Instead of dismissing their concerns, try to have an open and empathetic conversation to better understand their perspective.

 

#2 It’s not you, it’s me

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This classic breakup line may seem like a harmless cliché, but it can leave your partner feeling confused and hurt. Taking responsibility for your own emotions is important, but it's equally important to communicate openly about any issues within the relationship. Blaming yourself without addressing the underlying problems won't lead to a resolution.

 

#3 You’re just like my ex

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Drawing comparisons between your current partner and an ex can be hurtful and damaging. Each person is unique, and bringing up past relationships only creates unnecessary tension and resentment. Focus on appreciating your partner's individuality and building a strong foundation together.

 

#4 If things continue like this, we should consider going our separate ways

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Continually bringing up breakups and divorce in arguments only makes them seem more likely. The more these warnings are thrown around, the closer the relationship gets to considering them as a solution. Such threats can make a partner fear being left alone. If empty threats are used repeatedly, it could eventually push a partner to the point where they feel they’ve had enough and decide to end the relationship.

 

#5 I wish I had never met you

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Saying things like that, even in a heated moment, can really hurt your partner. Those words might stick, creating doubt and making them feel insecure. Remember that relationships have ups and downs, and it's natural to face challenges along the way. Rather than dwelling on negative thoughts, focus on finding solutions and nurturing a positive future together.

 

#6 I wish you were more like them

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Comparing your partner to others can really mess with how they feel about themselves, making them more self-conscious and reserved around you. It sends a message that they might not be good enough for you, causing strain in the relationship. Your partner deserves acceptance and love for who they are. Embrace each other's unique qualities and work together to grow as individuals and as a couple.

 

#7 I don’t trust you anymore

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Trust is the foundation of any strong relationship, and expressing a lack of trust can be deeply hurtful. Telling your partner that you don’t trust them anymore not only puts a strain on the relationship but also creates a sense of insecurity. It’s essential to address concerns and uncertainties through open communication rather than making a statement that can damage the trust you’ve built. Keep the conversation respectful and focus on finding solutions to strengthen trust instead of undermining it.

 

#8 Maybe I should look for someone who suits me more

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Throwing out the idea that maybe you should find someone else can really hurt. Instead of going down that road, why not talk about what's bugging you and find ways to make things better together? Keep the conversation positive and share your expectations to help understand each other better. Good communication matters, and it's not fair to expect someone to know what you're thinking.

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In the journey of love, our words matter. It's okay to mess up, but let's be careful with what we say. Instead, talk, understand, and work together. Love is a team effort, and our words can either build or break. Let's choose to build.