Here's Why Toxic Marriages Can Be More Painful For Kids Than Divorce

Here's Why Toxic Marriages Can Be More Painful For Kids Than Divorce

By Samprita on 04 Feb 2020
Senior Digital Editor

Divorce is always painful. It hurts everyone involved in the family, including children. However, in the long run, children suffer more if they grow up with parents in an unhappy relationship and who are constantly fighting.


If you have ever heard the phrase " We are staying together for the kids?", it is so not true. And, here's why toxic marriages can be more painful for children than divorce.

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  1. They will never get used to it.

Even it's been going on for years, kids can never get "used to" their parents fighting. Family conflicts can affect children emotionally and socially, causing them trust issues, feeling of unworthiness and low self-esteem. It becomes harder for them to overcome anxiety, guilt or feelings of insecurity.

2. They absorb the toxicity of their parents' marriage.

Children will grow up to replicate the relationship model they have seen at home, between their parents. Seeing their parents constantly fight becomes a normal deal and they'll copy it themselves in future. They grow up believing that it is normal to live in a dysfunctional relationship and they won't even imagine that relationships can be any different.

3. They have a hard time building healthy relationships. 

With their model relationship being anything but happy, kids will face trouble interacting with others later in life. They will have a hard time building healthy romantic relationships and other social connections too. It becomes very hard for them to build close friendships or to connect with colleagues because of fear and trust issues.

4. They will become more vulnerable to stress.

For children to learn how to deal with a stressful situation, they need to have a safe environment, which is usually their home. When 'home' means fighting, yelling and conflicts, it isn't really safe for the kids. The only definition they then have of a home is scary and sad. Children who grow up in such an environment are prone to becoming stressed easily, interpreting even the most ordinary situations as threatening. This could lead to insomnia, depression and other psychological issues.


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