Actress-Model Sheila Sim Defends Self After Shaming Hubby On IG For Not Planning Mother's Day For Her

By Rachel Yohannan on 10 May 2022

Senior Digital Editor

While other mums were posting happy photos of their kids, husbands, and the gifts they received on Mother’s Day, Singaporean actress-model Sheila Sim’s social media uploads sang a different tune. Instead of a warm and touching, her Instagram post on what was supposed to be a joyous occasion was a sombre one with a tinge of disappointment.

In this post, she publicly called out her husband, Deon Woo, for his failure to plan anything for her on Mother’s Day. A day later, on 9 May 2022, she uploaded a second post defending her choice of actions.

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Read on to find out more about Sheila Sim and her Mother’s Day disappointment!

Photo from @sheila_sim via Instagram

First, a bit on the post that started it all - a very glamorous professionally-shot photo of herself with her daughter Layla Woo (now aged 1.5 years), who was still an infant at the time. As for her husband? Nowhere to be found. The caption did mention him though, albeit not in the most positive light.

“No celebrations, no flowers, no cards for me this Mother’s day because the husband failed to plan. I am disappointed, because Mother’s Day is the most meaningful day for me. Not my birthday but Mother's Day. Because I worked so hard to be a mother.”

Oops, looks like someone’s in deep trouble.

She continued, saying “But I try hard to remind myself that the biggest gift of them all is Layla. I'm doing this because I love Layla with every bit of my heart, and I shouldn't have expectations of returns.”

“But I am only human.”

She ended the post by addressing other mothers who might be feeling the same way, saying that they are “not alone” and that she understands their “frustration and disappointment”

“Still, Happy Mother's Day to you. Because we mamas deserve to be celebrated.”

Photo from @sheila_sim via Instagram

This post garnered mixed reactions from fans and the public. On one hand, there were other mums commiserating with her, saying that they felt the same and that Mother’s Day often ends up being more about their kids than themselves.

Others berated her for publicly shaming her husband on social media, saying that it reflected very badly on her. A handful of them said that she shouldn’t have expected her husband to celebrate Mother’s Day for her, simply because she’s not his mother. There were also those who pointed out that she wouldn’t have been able to become a mother without her husband, and that she should have been kinder to him.

Photo from @sheila_sim via Instagram

The next day, she took to Instagram once more, this time posting a solo selfie. She started out by thanking those who wished her Mother’s Day as well as the other ladies who came forward to sympathise with her. She also claimed that the post about her husband was just her being “authentic” and honest about her feelings.

“Life and relationships alike, [are] not always a bed of roses. I'm grateful to have followers who [appreciate] the authenticity albeit it being bitter sometimes. Such is life, isn't it?”

“Some days I love him more. Some days I love him less. Some days I just want to k*ll him. Some posts I sing praises about him, 100 others I share about Positive Psychology, 1 I write sh*tty things about my husband.”

She’d like to call this “balance”, or “Yin Yang”.

“But no it's not. Because 1 sh*tty post about my husband is me being very conservative. Lol!” she jokes.

Sheila maintains that different things hit people differently, and while Mother’s Day isn’t seen as a big deal to some, it is for her. She then appealed to the public to avoid judging her and her husband through their “own pair of lens”, and asked them to read her posts “with kindness and compassion”.

Photo from @sheila_sim via Instagram

This, again, drew varying responses, from encouraging ones to those that still expressed disgust over her airing her dirty laundry in public.

Photo from @sheila_sim via Instagram

Public sharing on social media aside, we hope that Sheila and her husband Deon have had open communication with each other to work out this issue. Let’s see if Deon comes through next year to give Sheila the dream Mother’s Day celebration she’s hoping for!

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